"It depends on how rapidly or slowly things progress." Joan Allen, a relationship expert, finds that baby boomers are far more likely to wait to have sex than younger daters."Especially among older people who went through the sexual revolution, with maturity they realize there are emotional consequences for getting involved in a sexual relationship," says Allen, author of Celebrating Single and Getting Love Right: From Stalemate to Soulmate.I The sex question is a popular one because it comes up in every dating situation. Turn sex into a reward for good behavior and time put-in and you’re missing the entire point.However, there’s no set timetable or finite number of dates that will let you know when it’s time to give it up. That’s what you get for playing by a made-up set of rules. As a woman, your job is not to come up with an arbitrary number of dates, like the U. coming up with a pull out date for our soldiers in Iraq. Being newly back on the dating scene I’ve been wrestling with this as not only a personal moral issue but also wanting to know other perspecitves. If you want to know if he is being monogamous, you need to ask him.
But what leads couples to hit the sheets at any given moment in their relationship? To get a better idea, we asked women in long-term relationships to divulge how quickly they had sex with their significant others.
If this isn't happening, you should be considering if the two of you have strong sexual chemistry and if strong sexual chemistry is important to you. If you are a woman who likes to take it slow when it comes to having sex, that is okay.
A guy should be willing to be patient about this , if he likes you.
According to the singles whom Allen has encountered, boomers generally play by far different dating rules than young, 20-something daters.
"I spoke with a young man in his early to mid-20s who told me that if he didn't have sex on the first or second night, he'd move on to the next person," she recalls.